The casual date place is the first place we usually meet someone that we want to date. We tell ourselves that the whole thing is just “casual” but inside…. what we feel…. is half scared and half excited. The casual date is the next step up from online dating. It is actually very important!
There are a few tips that I want to tell you about that will successfully help you into picking your casual date place, what to wear, and how to make a great first impression.
My Top Eight Best Casual Date Place Tips!!!
PICK the RIGHT PLACE
Sounds easy… huh? Wrong! You’ve got to think for a minute. Think about what you talked about in your e-mails, what his or her hobbies are, etc. If the girl or guy loves classical music and good books, how well will a rowdy sports bar/café go over? Not very well! Think! Be creative!
Special Tip: I love flowers and plants, so one time a guy (that I still keep in touch with) invited me to a quaint flower shop that I had never been to before. He bought me a single, perfect, daffodil and held my hand the whole we walked around and studied the beautiful flowers. I was elated that he was so thoughtful! Although the sparks just didn’t fly between us, in person, and he had to move across the country to Seattle for his company, I still love him. I hope you are reading this Mark! Some lucky girl is going to have him for a husband! What a catch you are for some lucky girl!!
Another time, I met a guy on the Net and read what he had said about loving antique trains. I invited him, on a Saturday, to meet me in little nearby town that had a famous train shop. I could tell that he was thrilled, and I found the whole thing very charming, too, as I watched two older guys argue over how to fix a particular antique train and saw two other ones playing chess quietly in the corner. It was a great way to break the ice between us and we are still close.
What I am talking about here is being thoughtful and interesting.
Casual is NOT sloppy
Sadly, nobody dresses up anymore. I love the old movies where the women really dress like women, and the men don suits as everyday garb and look mysterious in their overcoats and wool felt hats. There is absolutely nothing left to the imagination anymore. Ah…alas…it is not to be! But anyway…back to reality…. The rule is to be presentable…whatever that is for your date. Think about where you will be meeting and give some thought to whomever you are meeting. Don’t wear a suit if you are meeting a girl who spends her day up to her elbows in motorcycle grease. This gal will probably feel more comfortable in seeing you in blue jeans and a nice shirt. Although opposites attract, way opposites repel. Clean is ALWAYS sexy! Even grunge wear can be neat!
Be on time at the casual date place
I know that this sounds simple, but if you are late…. it sends out the signal that you are either selfish…or a scatterbrain. Neither one of these things spark good feelings in your casual date. And you are making a bad first impression! Making someone wait for you makes them nervous!
Don’t bring your dog, your laptop, your Game Boy, your Ipod, or anything else to the casual date place
He/She may love dogs, but it is not a good idea at the first meeting. What if your dog bites them, or barks at them before you even get the chance to say hello? And another thing….turn off your stinking cell phone! Permit those few remaining brain cells a break from the microwave radiation that has been cooking your brain! Who wants to compete with you chattering on your cell phone? I got up and literally walked away from a guy who kept talking on his phone after he had just introduced himself. I don’t need that rudeness….neither do you. Turn it off! Leave your toys at home!
Decide BEFORE you go who pays, or if you are going Dutch
If you are just meeting for coffee than it’s really not an issue. But if you are meeting for a meal, it’s worth mentioning. If I really think that I will like a guy…I always offer to pay first. In the end, the worst thing that can happen is that I make a new friend. But if this issue is not casually mentioned before you go…. then it may be a sore spot. If a guy asks me out…then I generally assume that he wants to pay. But I offer to go Dutch anyway when I see the waiter/waitress hand him the bill. Just be polite and use your discretion. In an e-mail you can say something like “Joe, thanks for inviting me to Randy’s Café for lunch on Saturday. I am really looking forward to it! Would you like to go Dutch?” They usually write back and say that they are inviting ME, but sometimes they want to go Dutch. It all depends. But it’s a good idea to just bring it up. It also, makes you, (if you are female like me), look good to a guy. He usually appreciates you offering. You are not out to “get something from him.” You are just being nice to him. Let him pay if he wishes to do so. It may offend him, otherwise.
Check the casual date place out
What I mean by this… is physically go to the place where you will be meeting at the time you will be there. I made a mistake of choosing a place with the help of adultfrienedfinder app that was usually quiet and become noxiously loud later in the day. I kept apologizing but we had to keep screaming at each other to hear what the other one was saying. I honestly had no idea that it became rowdy at that hour. Check out the casual date place before you meet them there! Okay? No one likes screaming his or her lungs out to speak to you! Whew! Don’t make that mistake!
Bring them something thoughtful to remember you by
Make it a little thing so that they don’t feel bad that they didn’t think of you. Months before I met this guy in person, he brings me a tiny pink haired fink doll to our casual date place. I was stunned that he remembered that, from three months before. (I worshipped fink dolls as a child and still have an avid collection.) Needless to say I hung on every word he said. I kissed him very sweetly on the cheek and he bashfully smiled at me. He knew that he was a hit with me! I found what he did so sweet! And one time… I brought a guy a tiny replica of a Harley Davidson motorcycle to put near his computer at work. It’s still there… to this day. It was just a little thing that went over big! Remember: We are all children at heart. We still love toys!
Don’t forget to smile
I have really had to practice smiling when I first meet people. I am usually a little nervous and I have a tendency to concentrate when I am trying to listen. I have always believed that listening was important than talking. But…when someone doesn’t really know you…you can send the wrong signals if you don’t smile at them and tell them nonverbally that you like them, and that want to get to know them. I know that I am the consummate intellectual, but…we all need to remember that we are all just human beings. We need the nonverbal stuff, too, to make us feel at ease. So flash them a kind, genuine smile, and wave a little when you first meet someone. It makes for a good first impression…and it’s also thoughtful and friendly. Are you friendly? Relax… and give the other poor person a break! Lighten up!
Now Go Out There and Just Have Fun!!